It seems like I am always running behind on things, but Mother’s Day and Monday were pretty busy. We had an ER visit on the one and running to do on the other. That’s my excuse.
Mother’s should be celebrated everyday, not just one day a year. A good mother spends most of her time seeing to her family’s needs, taking very little time for herself.
The Bible says a lot about what mothers are to be: Titus 2:4-5 says and “so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self controlled, pure, working at home, kind and submissive to their own husbands that the word of God may not be reviled”. Deuteronomy 6:6-7 refers to being available morning, noon and night “and these words I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk about them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you arise” and the famous one that applies not just to mothers but fathers as well Proverbs 22:6 “train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he shall not depart from it”
Motherhood, today has changed. It is not as is it was in biblical times. Most households have to depend on both parents to work so the children end up in daycare or with relatives so the strong bonds between a mother and her children are often weaker than they should be. Then you have the single mothers, those who didn’t choose to wait until they were married and those who have lost their spouse, either through divorce or death.
Too many parents have chosen different ways of raising their children, trying to be open minded and allowing them to be exposed to all the evils of the world without warning them of the consequences. Others have just stepped away totally from any kind of interaction with children, allowing others such as the school, daycare workers or teachers the job of teaching their children, often, also depending on electronics and technology as babysitters so they can have their “me” time.
Some mothers weren’t meant to be mothers at all. Everyday in the news I read about some horrible abuse perpetrated on children by their parents, some even starving, beating and killing their own children. No, society has changed the face of motherhood a long time ago. Many of these abusive parents didn’t want children to begin with but were careless and didn’t take any responsibility for curbing their sexual appetites. Others were addicts and some must have been mentally ill.
I’ve had five mothers and several who acted as mothers in my life. Some were good, some not so good. I had two foster mothers and my own mother who really loved and cared about me, and two who didn’t see any reason to treat me as family. I’ve been blessed by having more than one good mother. I’ve been blessed by having others who treated me as their own child. If you have a mother, even one who could not always be there because of extenuating circumstances such as illness or the need to work, celebrate her every day. Love her, be there for her. Today I am thankful for all the “real” mothers I have had in my life.